Preparing for Winter 2020-2021: An Investment in Your Future Self

With winter on the horizon and the pandemic still raging, the prospect of many more months inside with constricted holiday gatherings, limited opportunities to spend time outdoors, and narrowed possibilities for entertainment outside of the home, may incite feelings of distress, frustration, and apathy. While this winter may look different from winters past, the experience can still allow for moments of peace, connection, and even joy as long as we think ahead and create a plan for coping. This will allow us the opportunity to embrace moments of comfort and employ effective self-care during periods of difficulty.

Planning ahead this winter

Cope ahead planning is a coping skill coined by Marsha Linehan, the creator of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), that can be applied before living through a situation that causes unwanted, distressing emotions. Cope ahead planning works because it allows individuals to identify and fully embody what it means to experience the unwanted event (and subsequent unwanted emotions) and envision how one will cope ahead of the event. As we prepare for the cold winter season ahead amid the COVID-19 pandemic, we need to make room for the possibility that difficult or uncomfortable emotions will arise – loneliness, fear, or dread. We need to envision how we can take care of ourselves in the absence of typical coping strategies such as physical support of loved ones, exercise at our local gym, travel, etc. We must consider how we will cope with the reality of the pandemic and how we can find an oasis of peace and calm within our homes.

Cope ahead planning allows us to:

  • Identify what emotions and behaviors may interfere with effective problem solving
  • Decide what coping skills to use during a defined difficult situation; in this case, living through wintertime in a pandemic
  • Practice effective coping before encountering a problem scenario

Applying cope ahead planning this winter

Cope ahead planning is a tool to help us cope ahead of a difficult or undesirable possible outcome. By planning ahead for how we will cope if that event occurs, we can experience how we might deal with an undesired outcome more effectively, and can actually reduce our perceived discomfort and anxiety (Jameson, 2015). First, you need to identify healthy coping and problem-solving skills that you would like to use to deal with the undesired outcome. Be sure to be specific. Write out a detailed account of how you might cope with the difficult situation and identify the troubling emotions and action urges that you think might arise. Next, imagine the situation occurring as vividly as possible and see yourself applying previously defined coping skills.

When reflecting on the winter ahead, describe what a difficult day or experience might entail, how the day might unfold and what challenging emotions and/or behavioral urges might appear. For instance, sadness resulting from not seeing loved ones might spur feelings of loneliness which may incite sadness, tearfulness, and ineffective coping like not getting out of bed which may ultimately increase feelings of sadness. To prevent this, reflect on how you might employ more effective skills to cope with loneliness, possibly by identifying core supports, speaking to them in advance of lonely feelings, and asking them to schedule weekly phone calls to ward off a sense of isolation. Additionally, you might assess how you will cope when loneliness arises, identifying how the feeling might appear, and how you might self-soothe with the use of deep breathing, a yoga class, cooking a meal, or engaging in a mindful activity. Employing a cope ahead plan may serve to ward off or reduce difficult thoughts and feelings.

What is hygge and what are the benefits?

How might you create your cope ahead plan and what skills might you employ during the colder and darker winter months ahead? Hygge (pronounced “hoo-gah”) is a foundational characteristic of Danish culture that focuses on living with a sense of coziness and comfort. As described by Meik Wiking (2017) in The Little Book of Hygge, hygge “is about being with the people we love. A feeling of home. A feeling that we are safe.” The concept of hygge embraces ideas of being in the here and now, engaging our senses, investing in self-care, and connecting with others.

Being present and engaging in mindfulness can enhance focus, create a greater sense of calm, and reduce our worry, stress, and emotional reactivity (Keng, Smoski, and Robins, 2011). To be mindful is to be in the present moment intentionally and without judgment. One form of mindfulness is engaging our five senses (sight, touch, hear, smell, and taste) to focus within our environment on the present moment instead of being swept away by thoughts. This form of mindfulness is embodied by hygge’s emphasis on comfort and warmth, beckoning our senses, and encouraging present moment experiencing in the feel of a warm blanket, the taste of a sweet hot chocolate, or the sound and the smell of a crackling fire. Instead of focusing on what you might be missing out on due to the pandemic, how might you embrace your space and be present with the people and things around you?

Self-care is another key principle of hygge and entails prioritizing relaxation and appreciating simple pleasures. The emphasis on finding joy in the little things might facilitate more flexible, open-minded responses, and possibly greater self-compassion towards yourself and others. Social support is also an element of hygge, and while not easily obtained during a pandemic, identifying forms of connection – Facetime, phone calls, texts, etc. – may provide emotional support to cope with life’s challenges, reduce stress levels and improve self-esteem (APA, 2019). Find methods to identify close social supports and schedule more regular and intentional opportunities to connect throughout the winter. The benefits of embracing the concept of hygge and incorporating elements of mindfulness, self-care, and connection may improve your mental and emotional well being.

Using hygge to cope ahead: A practical application

Now that you are familiar with the concept of hygge and its core tenets – comfort, coziness, self-care, and connection, perhaps you might incorporate hygge into a cope ahead plan for this winter. The continued pandemic and colder temperatures may interfere with physical closeness to loved ones or participation in usual winter activities. That being said, you can leverage the concepts of hygge to promote coziness, comfort, and connection by coping ahead and identifying areas of self-care to pursue during the coldest days of the winter.

Consider creating lists of activities that embody comfort, coziness, and connection so that on those days when you are feeling increased sadness, low motivation, frustration, and lethargy resulting from pandemic-instilled limitations, you can peruse your list of self-care cope ahead activities intended to soothe and/or excite you.

For instance, you might brainstorm a bulleted list of:

  • comfort books and movies to have on hand for a challenging day
  • new books, movies, and TV series to explore
  • new baking/cooking recipes with which to experiment
  • hobbies to learn (i.e. chess, painting, ceramics)
  • mindful activities to explore indoors (i.e. knitting, baking, painting, doing a puzzle – think about activities that activate the senses!)
  • mindful (and safe!) activities to explore outdoors (i.e. walking, jogging, snowshoeing, building a snowman)
  • support systems (most reliable and trusted friends and family)

Using a notebook to create bulleted lists of experiences forces us to slow down and assess our wants and needs which in turn allows for a more mindful experience. Journaling and specifically bullet journaling provides a helpful way to list our cope ahead events, ideas, and experiences briefly and objectively in one single place, offering a method to practice non-judgmental mindfulness (Coaston, 2017). Regular application of mindfulness leads to reduced anxiety and stress and creates an increase in perceived resilience (Smyth, 2018).

Now, imagine sitting on your couch, cuddled up with a warm cup of tea and a heavy, fuzzy blanket. Imagine feeling the heat radiating from the blanket and warm mug as you revisit one of your favorite comfort novels while a scented candle flickers from nearby and you intermittently pause to watch the snow serenely falling onto a blanket of whiteness outside. Embrace the concepts of hygge and mindfulness and pause to reflect on your presence in this moment. The creation of a cope ahead plan with a focus on caring for your future self can allow you to prepare for peaceful, comforting moments like this in the winter ahead.



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About Victoria Stroz, MA, LCPC, PMH-C (she/her)

As a psychotherapist, I work with clients to validate their struggles, help them understand past patterns and motivations, derive new insights, and ultimately lead to acceptance and change. I believe all people comprehend their wants and needs inherently, and therapy can serve as the conduit to better understand and elicit the best approach for everyone, allowing them to advocate for the future they imagine for themselves.

Therapy is a collaborative effort and I seek to walk beside clients, engaging and encouraging them through a strengths-based approach that facilitates understanding and fosters acceptance and change. I believe treatment becomes most effective when clients feel comfortable with their clinician, and as such, I prioritize the relationship first, utilizing compassion, feedback, and a bit of humor to build trust and develop rapport.

I earned my Master’s degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Adler University and my Bachelor’s degree in Finance from Villanova University. I spent my early career in human-centered roles including human resources, career advising, and coaching before pursuing my degree in counseling. I work with adults and couples experiencing mood and anxiety disorders, relationship challenges, and life transitions. I also am a member of Postpartum Support International, volunteer with their helpline weekly, and have obtained my Perinatal Mental Health Certification to more effectively partner with individuals who are seeking support on their perinatal journey.

As a mental health therapist, I utilize an integrative therapeutic approach that incorporates Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, mindfulness techniques, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. My therapeutic style is open, approachable, and non-judgmental, empowering clients to make changes best aligned to their values.

LCPC License Number: 180014439
Type 1 NPI Number: 1851949994
Accepts: BCBS PPO and BlueChoice plans, UnitedHealthcare/Optum PPO, self-pay and out of network clients



Selected training and affiliation

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Treatment Methods and Trainings
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Treatment Methods and Trainings
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Treatment Methods and Trainings
Postpartum Support International Member and Helpline Volunteer
Perinatal Mental Health Certification (PMH-C)
Gottman Couples Therapy Certification - Level 1
Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS) Member
Illinois Counseling Association Member
40-Hour Sexual Assault Certification
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) Practitioner
Highly-Sensitive Person (HSP) Knowledgeable Therapist

Presentations and Facilitated Trainings

Demystifying Psychotherapy
The Lowdown on Low Libido: (Re)Defining Desire for the Couple in Psychotherapy

Key beliefs

We are all worthy of love and acceptance, exactly as we are.
Self-love, compassion, and patience create the foundations towards healing.
Even though progress may appear slow-moving on the surface, every small step we put in motion aids in our growth.
Finding small moments of gratitude, even in our darkest days, can help us feel more present and connected to the world around us.

More about me

I love listening to my favorite songs on repeat and singing along out loud.
I try not to take myself too seriously, find humor in myself (and my mistakes!), and recognize we’re all works in progress.
Traveling, particularly experiencing new cultures and cuisines, broadens my perspective and builds connectivity to the world around me.
Nothing brings me more joy than a warm cup of coffee and a good book.